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Gently Supporting a Sister in Need
Dear Annie: My younger sister, "Clara," moved to my town last spring after a painful breakup. She was fragile, devastated and desperate for a fresh start. I opened my home and my heart without hesitation. I drove her to job interviews, invited her for dinner several nights a week, included her in outings with friends and did everything a big ...Read more
Commentary: Could China's divorce reforms inspire fairer American marriages?
Marriage rates in the United States have plummeted nearly 60% since 1970, hitting historic lows amid rising divorce risks and financial pitfalls. This decline isn’t primarily a gender war but a finance-based crisis: The specter of divorce as a wealth transfer discourages commitment.
Enter China’s bold 2025 divorce law reforms, effective Feb...Read more
Asking Eric: Friend shrugs off concerning memory issues
Dear Eric: I have a good friend whose memory seems to me to be slipping. She laughs it off, saying she has so much going on that she can’t remember things, but I think there is something else happening.
Should I say something and encourage her to see a doctor? I could talk to her husband to see if he is noticing anything. Maybe he should be ...Read more
Heartbroken Over Fading Friendship
Dear Annie: I'm hoping you can help me make sense of a situation that feels so small on the surface, yet so big in my heart.
A few months ago, my closest friend, "Melissa," and I fell into one of those quiet, accidental distances. Nothing dramatic happened. No argument. No betrayal. Just life. She got busy with her kids' sports schedules, and...Read more
Asking Eric: Tedious cookie tradition taxes family ties
Dear Eric: My late mother made a special Christmas cookie that required tedious decorating, considering each person's personal preference for toppings, and giving them as gifts to family and friends. They always had a place of honor on our family Christmas table.
When she was no longer able, she gave me the cookie cutter, and my daughters and I...Read more
Gutted Over Secret Group Chat
Dear Annie: Most nights, my phone lights up with our family group chat. My husband and I have three grown kids in their 20s, and I love seeing their jokes, photos and silly updates. It makes me feel like we are still all under one roof.
Last week, my son accidentally left his phone on our kitchen counter while I was cleaning up. A ...Read more
Asking Eric: Husband does housework while wife plays online games
Dear Eric: I'm a 47-year-old guy who has been with my wife, 44, for 12 years. Six years ago, we made the decision to uproot ourselves from city life and buy an acreage. We had long discussions about what this would entail – the work it needs, maintenance, et cetera.
My wife was very keen on the idea, and she assured me that she would be ...Read more
Second to the Screen
Dear Annie: I feel foolish even writing this, but I cannot tell if I am overreacting or if I have a real problem on my hands.
My best friend, "Dana," and I have been close for more than 20 years. We have raised our kids together, shared holidays, taken trips and weathered the usual storms of adult life. Lately, though, something has shifted. ...Read more
Asking Eric: Brother’s partner mocks in-laws even after their deaths
Dear Eric: My parents immigrated after World War II, arriving with $20 and a lot of determination. They worked hard, built a home, a successful business and raised five kids who all went to college and had many more opportunities than they did. Both of our parents passed away a few years ago and I miss them dearly.
One of my brothers has a long...Read more
Facing Christmas With an Aching Heart
Dear Annie: Though I'm young, I often feel as if I'm living the life of someone much older. This past year, many brewing family crises collided between March and April.
One relative passed away from a condition we all knew about, but the loss still hit hard. Around the same time, my father lost our family home, and we were evicted in March, ...Read more
Asking Eric: After a birthday with no greetings, letter writer feels miserable
Dear Eric: I'm the first to recognize we live in a different world than 20 or 25 years ago. That is to say everything seems to have become so fast-paced; everyone is always busy, no time for anything, expectations of instant gratification.
Is it becoming more commonplace to forgo what was once common practice? Recently, a close (immediate) ...Read more
Seeking Light After Years of Hurt
Dear Annie: I don't understand why people see me as a threat. I have no devious plans or intentions. I've never been in a fight. Throughout my life, I've been bullied -- from elementary school all the way through college -- by the same girl. Despite everything, I've always tried to help others. I feed the homeless, even though I am homeless ...Read more
Millennial Life: A Season That Will Not Slow Down Unless We Do
The emails started early this year, alongside the creep of holiday decor where fat Santas pushed skeletons off the endcaps so fast that the turkeys just waddled back to the clearance aisles. Those emails all carried that corporate form, interlaced with out-of-office alerts and the familiar refrain of "Let's circle back after the holidays."
It's...Read more
Asking Eric: Messy housemate gives host silent treatment
Dear Eric: I allowed the daughter of a cousin, with whom I am not close, to move in with me while she finishes college. When she moved in last January it was supposed to be for a semester, but this is the longest semester I have ever seen.
We had an incident where she left gobs of hair all over my bathroom, which I had to clean up. I told her ...Read more
Grateful Today and Always
Dear Readers: Thanksgiving has a way of sneaking up on us, doesn't it? One minute we're rushing through the year, taking the kids to games and meeting deadlines, and the next we're standing over turkey and wondering how the year flew by so fast. But beneath the noise of the dinner table and all the pie crusts, this day gives us something rare:...Read more
Single File: Core Questions (Part 2)
All right, moving right along to continue the findings of that exploratory survey you began last time here in "Single File":
--Do you expect to have sex on the first date? (About 76 percent of women said no; 6.7 percent said yes; 13.8 percent said sometimes. As for men, 15.1 percent said yes; 75.6 percent said no; 9.3 percent said sometimes.)
...Read more
Asking Eric: Baking favor leads to salty feelings
Dear Eric: My daughter-in-law's mother asked my girlfriend to make a dessert for another daughter's bridal shower. My girlfriend made a tray of lemon bars, so it wasn't a huge undertaking for her.
The issue is that my girlfriend was not invited to the shower. She never charges people for when she makes desserts since she loves to bake. Are we ...Read more
When Passion Meets Paycheck
Dear Annie: I'm writing about my sister, "Claire," who seems to be living two completely different lives. By day, she's a high-powered attorney, wearing tailored suits and commanding boardrooms. But on weekends, she disappears to a tiny town in Michigan, where she rents a cabin and paints. None of her colleagues know about her art, and she ...Read more
Ask Anna: I found a dating app receipt in my girlfriend's email and I'm spiraling
Dear Anna,
I’m a 29-year-old guy and I’ve been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. We’ve always had what I thought was a solid, committed relationship. We live separately but spend most nights together, talk about future plans, the whole thing. I trusted her completely. Last week, while she was showing me something on her ...Read more
Asking Eric: Goddaughter’s wedding dress causes huge family rift
Dear Eric: My goddaughter is getting married in December. Her parents have experienced crushing financial loss through no fault of their own. So, I told my goddaughter I would contribute $500 to the wedding dress.
She picked out a dress without consulting me that cost nearly 10 times that much and sent me a picture of the receipts. After much ...Read more
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