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The Social Weight of a Plate
Dear Annie: I have a good friend "Amy," who is a great lady. We've known each other for about 15 years, but we reconnected about two years ago and started attending events together, including dinners that range from casual to fine dining. We're both in our late 40s and single. She's a mom of three almost-grown adults who she raised without her...Read more
Pitch-A-Friend wants you to be the wingmate
MINNEAPOLIS -- Dressed in “Team Lisa” T-shirts, two friends posing as savvy business-minded “Sharks” ran through a tight presentation of why any potential investor in the audience would be smart to date their friend.
“When you invest in Lisa you invest in your own future,” they said, as part of their “Shark Tank”-themed ...Read more
Asking Eric: Gift exchange tradition grows tiresome
Dear Eric: How does one politely suggest to an in-law's relative that we don't need to exchange Christmas gifts? My significant other and I are at the stage in life where we really do not need more "stuff" and would rather not deal with gifts that are generic at best and usually are re-gifted promptly via donation or gift-economy communities.
...Read more
Tired of Being Outdone
Dear Annie: I love my sister dearly, but she's one of those people who always has to top everyone's story. If I mention I had a bad cold, she'll say hers turned into pneumonia. If I get a compliment at work, she'll mention a big promotion she got years ago. Family gatherings have become exhausting because every conversation somehow circles ...Read more
Asking Eric: Acquaintance is friendly in real life but ignores on Facebook
Dear Eric: I have a friend I've known for four years. We all live in a 55+ community and have moved here from different areas of the country. We are a group of women who get together on a regular basis for outings.
Over the past couple of months, I feel somewhat left out because of a couple of events I wasn't included in. But what I'm trying to...Read more
Caught Between Sister and Aunt
Dear Annie: My sister, "Ellen," has an extensive history of being the victim of sexual abuse, which has caused her a lot of trauma. I'm so proud of all the work she has done to process and work through much of this. However, she tends to have very skewed and strong views on most things. We often see situations, past and present, in almost ...Read more
Ask Anna: How do I tell if a guy is moving slowly or wasting my time?
Dear Anna,
I’m 28 and have been seeing a guy around my age for a few months. We clicked fast in conversation — texting every day and even saying good night, sharing long voice notes, that kind of early-stage excitement — but because of work and conflicting schedules, we’ve only managed a handful of actual dates.
Last week was my ...Read more
Single File: Core Questions (Part 3)
You've reached the last of the survey's core questions, but this is no finale. Next week highlights lifestyle-related questions and responses. Let's dive back in.
--Are you or do you plan to be sexually faithful to your partner? (About 39 percent said yes.)
--Has your sex life as a single person lived up to your expectations?
--Does ...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: How do I ask about his long-term goals?
Today, let’s look at two different questions from two different clients. As always, if one person asks, I can only assume it is applicable to a larger audience.
And, interestingly enough, you’ll see that these questions are applicable to any gender and any age.
Q: I wanted to have a conversation with (him) about his more long-term goals ...Read more
Asking Eric: Still-married grandson wants to bring his new girlfriend to visit
Dear Eric: Our grandson, who is still married but separated from his wife of five years, wants to visit at Christmas for a week with his new girlfriend. We would love for him to visit but not with any new friend.
How can we tell him without hurting his feelings and damaging our relationship? Or should we open up our home to him and his new ...Read more
Gently Supporting a Sister in Need
Dear Annie: My younger sister, "Clara," moved to my town last spring after a painful breakup. She was fragile, devastated and desperate for a fresh start. I opened my home and my heart without hesitation. I drove her to job interviews, invited her for dinner several nights a week, included her in outings with friends and did everything a big ...Read more
Commentary: Could China's divorce reforms inspire fairer American marriages?
Marriage rates in the United States have plummeted nearly 60% since 1970, hitting historic lows amid rising divorce risks and financial pitfalls. This decline isn’t primarily a gender war but a finance-based crisis: The specter of divorce as a wealth transfer discourages commitment.
Enter China’s bold 2025 divorce law reforms, effective Feb...Read more
Asking Eric: Friend shrugs off concerning memory issues
Dear Eric: I have a good friend whose memory seems to me to be slipping. She laughs it off, saying she has so much going on that she can’t remember things, but I think there is something else happening.
Should I say something and encourage her to see a doctor? I could talk to her husband to see if he is noticing anything. Maybe he should be ...Read more
Heartbroken Over Fading Friendship
Dear Annie: I'm hoping you can help me make sense of a situation that feels so small on the surface, yet so big in my heart.
A few months ago, my closest friend, "Melissa," and I fell into one of those quiet, accidental distances. Nothing dramatic happened. No argument. No betrayal. Just life. She got busy with her kids' sports schedules, and...Read more
Asking Eric: Tedious cookie tradition taxes family ties
Dear Eric: My late mother made a special Christmas cookie that required tedious decorating, considering each person's personal preference for toppings, and giving them as gifts to family and friends. They always had a place of honor on our family Christmas table.
When she was no longer able, she gave me the cookie cutter, and my daughters and I...Read more
Gutted Over Secret Group Chat
Dear Annie: Most nights, my phone lights up with our family group chat. My husband and I have three grown kids in their 20s, and I love seeing their jokes, photos and silly updates. It makes me feel like we are still all under one roof.
Last week, my son accidentally left his phone on our kitchen counter while I was cleaning up. A ...Read more
Asking Eric: Husband does housework while wife plays online games
Dear Eric: I'm a 47-year-old guy who has been with my wife, 44, for 12 years. Six years ago, we made the decision to uproot ourselves from city life and buy an acreage. We had long discussions about what this would entail – the work it needs, maintenance, et cetera.
My wife was very keen on the idea, and she assured me that she would be ...Read more
Second to the Screen
Dear Annie: I feel foolish even writing this, but I cannot tell if I am overreacting or if I have a real problem on my hands.
My best friend, "Dana," and I have been close for more than 20 years. We have raised our kids together, shared holidays, taken trips and weathered the usual storms of adult life. Lately, though, something has shifted. ...Read more
Asking Eric: Brother’s partner mocks in-laws even after their deaths
Dear Eric: My parents immigrated after World War II, arriving with $20 and a lot of determination. They worked hard, built a home, a successful business and raised five kids who all went to college and had many more opportunities than they did. Both of our parents passed away a few years ago and I miss them dearly.
One of my brothers has a long...Read more
Facing Christmas With an Aching Heart
Dear Annie: Though I'm young, I often feel as if I'm living the life of someone much older. This past year, many brewing family crises collided between March and April.
One relative passed away from a condition we all knew about, but the loss still hit hard. Around the same time, my father lost our family home, and we were evicted in March, ...Read more
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