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Asking Eric: Friend’s ADHD diagnosis causes conflict

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My friend was recently diagnosed with ADHD. She is now continually late for events or doesn’t show up at all. On one occasion my friend was coming for dinner at my house. An hour before she was due, I got a text from another friend saying they were now having dinner at her place. My first friend didn’t contact me at all, not to ...Read more

Stepping Back From Toxic In-Laws

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been happily married for more than 40 years. The one shadow on that happiness has been my relationship with my husband's family, especially my mother-in-law. From the beginning, she has never seemed to like me. I honestly do not know why. Over the years, she has been dismissive and unkind, and I have usually stayed quiet to ...Read more

Asking Eric: Grieving son’s new girlfriend clashes with house rules

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My youngest son is in his mid-40s. He had some heavy mental issues a few years ago and moved back home to our basement.

Prior to the breakdown his wife left him, he lost a job he loved and soon he started dating Leslie. She became pregnant and our beautiful granddaughter was born but passed at two months and two days from SIDS. Our ...Read more

Friend Is Gambling His Money Away

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My best friend and I have been close since college. He is the person who helped me move into my first apartment, who showed up with coffee during finals, who still remembers the name of my childhood dog. That is why it hurts so much to watch him repeat the same pattern that already cost him almost everything.

Years ago, his ...Read more

Millennial Life: Letting Joy Lift You

The city invited me to ride on its inaugural hot-air balloon flight. We headed to the local high school fields at a chilly dawn, and the brand new balloon slowly woke as air and heat gave it shape. The burners thundered, and the basket rocked beneath our feet. Then the ground loosened its hold. Gravity softened. The familiar sense of weight, not...Read more

Asking Eric: Sisters are estranged but one wants closure

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I guess I don't know how to let it go. My sister is five years older. There was a problem during a visit she made with her grandson more than 10 years ago. Her husband caused chaos and confusion, but she blamed me. She said she would never speak to me anymore and she hasn’t.

Our beloved sister passed this year. I called to inform ...Read more

Being Punished for Moving Forward

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I got divorced after 27 years of marriage. I didn't leave because I stopped loving my husband -- I left because I was lonely inside my own home. We stopped talking, stopped laughing, stopped noticing each other. I spent years saying, "It's fine" until one day I realized I didn't want my life to be fine. I wanted it to be real.

My ...Read more

Asking Eric: Life-long friends stop sharing life’s trials

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I have a few longtime friends. After four years of caretaking, my mom passed away from dementia. After that, I had to arrange for the selling of furnishings and the house. My 65-year-old brother who shared the house with her has cerebral palsy and required round-the-clock care. So, I had to arrange all that.

During this approximately...Read more

Dear Annie: Abusive 20-Year Relationship Must Come to an End

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I see that you often answer questions pertaining to families trapped in addiction. I grew up in that special hell with all of the complex trauma issues that go along with that lifestyle.

I am a card-carrying member of Alcoholics Anonymous and Adult Children of Alcoholics. I have found ACA the most helpful. You never mention it, so I...Read more

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Three best friends from childhood decided to commit -- by buying a communal house together

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

The Rachels met each other when they were 5 and 6 years old, and they met Lizzy Seitel — who would come to be known as one of the Rachels despite her name — in middle school.

They all lived in the D.C. area, and one weekend they took part in a retreat with Cheder, a progressive Jewish community in the area. In Seitel’s recollection, they ...Read more

Asking Eric: Sexism mars networking opportunities

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I'm a freelance contractor, and a few years ago, I joined my local chamber of commerce and other networking groups to connect with potential clients. I was excited at first, but now I’m not sure what to do.

The chamber of commerce is mostly older men, and I'm a woman in my 30s. In these settings, the men tend to talk down to me or ...Read more

Dear Annie: Growing Impatient With Friend's Ingratitude

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am struggling with what to do about one of my very best friends who is basically family to me at this point. Throughout our friendship, I have noticed that she does not say "thank you" very often. This includes when a gift is given to her or even when a customer purchases something in person from her small business.

When I have ...Read more

Asking Eric: Wife wants out of marriage, but husband is sick

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I’ve been with my husband for 25 years. Twenty of those years I spent being a mother and a grandmother and a full-time employee. I had a nervous breakdown after my second child passed away from illness and I wanted to move away, but not with my husband. He insisted on coming. But ultimately, I did not find another position and ended...Read more

Dear Annie: Should I Keep Encouraging My Parents' Divorce?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have never been ignorant to the fact that, in my opinion, my parents' marriage sucks. My dad is and has always been controlling and domineering. And my mom just exists and really believes it is her job to just be submissive. (These are people married since the 1950s.)

But the last couple of years, particularly 2020-present, my dad...Read more

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Ask Anna: My partner won't cut ties with his ex after their divorce

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dear Anna,

I’m a 38-year-old woman and recently reconnected with my ex-boyfriend from college, who’s now 40. We dated for two years when we were 22 and 24, and it was intense and meaningful before life pulled us in different directions.

We’ve been back together for about five months now, and he’s everything I remembered, except for one...Read more

Single File: I Dare You

Life Advice / Single File /

Ready for some dares that just might tickle your brain? Well, for openers, I dare you to plan your free time without leaving spaces for possible dates.

I dare you to regard Saturday night -- that holy of holies -- as merely one-seventh of the week. Nothing special. (Beginning to get my point?)

I dare you to plan the week ahead as a unit. ...Read more

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'Sex to me is like having anchovies -- yeah, I suppose I could, but I'd really rather not'

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

PHILADELPHIA -- Chris Summers was born in South Philly and raised by her grandmother and her mother. She knew she was supposed to get married, but she never felt exactly like the people around her.

The main sticking point was sex: she didn’t want to have it, yet she still longed for romantic companionship.

”I really crave connection and ...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: How do I express my needs and then decide if it's a relationship I still want to be in?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

If you’ve ever wondered, when dating someone, “How do I express my needs and then decide if it’s a relationship I still want to be in?” I have a framework I’d like you to consider: The Tree of Needs.

You’ll have to use your imagination for this one and picture a tree. At the top, we have your need, whatever that may be. On the next...Read more

Asking Eric: Old friend has ghosted, should she still get a birthday party invite?

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I became friends with one of my oldest and closest friends when we were 9 years old.

In the last three years, it has been nearly impossible to see her. I routinely sent her text messages and voicemails asking if she wanted to get together. I finally resorted to sending her a message on Facebook.

I was very surprised with her ...Read more

Dear Annie: 'Sucking It Up' Is Not the Answer

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've read a few letters in your column in which parents wrote about two of their children arguing and wanting there to be peace. And in all of the replies, you have advocated trying to remind people about the good times and work toward building back the relationship.

Generally, in most of these situations, there is one sibling who ...Read more

 

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