ArcaMax

It happens all the time. You match with someone online. You ask a thoughtful question about their profile, and they respond… with no questions about you back. You try again with a question. They respond with no questions back. Now what?

I want to introduce a concept called 2QS, or Two Questions and a Statement.

Here’s how it works: Give ...Read more

Dear Eric: My dad passed away three years ago. He lived about 10 hours away from me but near my sister.

Sis and Dad have always been close. I had an OK relationship with both of them, though she and I have never been close. She took on most of his care and I tried to visit a few times a year.

Dad had a paid-off house worth about $250,000. To ...Read more

Dear Eric: My husband and his siblings inherited a home. My daughter offered to move her family into one of the apartments and take care of the property. We decided on a figure that would cover the bills in the form of rent.

Several years ago, she began withholding rent, she would only pay when I would ask for additional money due to a large ...Read more

Dear Eric: My husband is one of eight siblings. A few live on opposite sides of the country, but they do remain in contact, and we all get together occasionally.

One of my brothers-in-law is married and has a stepdaughter.

The stepdaughter became engaged, and we were told that since she was paying for her own wedding, they had no say in the ...Read more

Dear Eric: I have two friends who can't hear very well. One of them had hearing aids but returned them. The other one has them but won't wear them.

They frequently talk over each other and interrupt people all the time because they can't seem to tell if someone else is speaking.

What's really annoying is they keep telling me to speak up, then ...Read more

Dear Eric: I have two sons in their early 30s. Recently, my older son became engaged to a wonderful woman the same age, who I love as a daughter.

While our relationships are good, I have found that my desire for close family bonds has gotten stronger as I get older, especially in the past several years when I've been living several hours' ...Read more

Dear Eric: My wife of 50 years told me that she no longer wants to live with me. I am currently living in our summer home with no friends or social contacts/networks. She has no interest in reconciling.

We didn't fight or argue, and I am at a loss as to what triggered her declaration. This has taken me totally by surprise. I thought we had a ...Read more

Dear Eric: My husband has eating and sanitary habits that make me cringe. When he prepares his lunch, he licks off the mayonnaise or peanut butter that he has gotten on his fingers and then sticks them in the communal chip bag without washing his hands first.

When he eats cereal or salad, he makes this smacking noise that gets in my head. I ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’m a late-bloomer lesbian — came out at 40, two years ago — and was lucky to have a gentle, affirming first relationship that made me feel safe and seen. She was kind and patient, and our physical connection felt beautifully balanced. Recently, though, I dated someone local who was much more experienced and, frankly, kind of ...Read more

As a dating coach, I often get questions about the first date — the length, the venue, the method of parting … you name it. I thought I’d share a few gems this week:

Question: So I've been texting back and forth with this girl for a while now (kept having conflicting schedules), and we're finally getting to meet this Thursday. Can you ...Read more

Dear Eric: One of our neighbors has acquired backyard chickens, and a rooster. His chicken coop is not far from our bedroom window. Now that it's getting warmer, we like to sleep with the windows open to cool off the house at night. The rooster wakes up at 5:20 a.m., so now we do as well.

We are retired, so most days we can go back to sleep ...Read more